There was a recent comment on An Infertile Blonde that made me remember a moment in my life that I had forgotten about…..
And maybe it will help to share…..
Once upon a time (about 6 years ago) there were three friends.
Two were married.
One was about to get married.
One had a baby.
One was desperately trying.
And one day they met for lunch.
The conversation (as it usually did those days) went right into wedding plans (which were very fun and exciting) and then on to “are you going to try to get pregnant as soon as you are married?”
I tried to be a part of it.
I tried to be excited.
I just listened and kept eating my lunch.
The unmarried friend said, “I’m a little scared of being pregnant…especially about giving birth.” (Fair)
And they looked at me and asked, “Are you scared of being pregnant?”
Stunned, I replied, “I’m a little more scared of never getting pregnant at this point.”
And that pretty much brought lunch to a close.
I felt terrible….I should have kept my mouth closed but the words were out before I could help it.
To my readers…..your fears are justified…just as mine were….and you will get through this.
But this journey we’re all on leads us in new directions……
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again…..
Sometimes they are directions that we never would have found for ourselves.
As I think about my two miracles……
I think how lucky I am that my original plan didn’t work out…..because where would I be without The Boy and The Girl?
And the thing about friends…the really good ones… is that they hang in there with you as you find your way.
I know mine did.
Love much,
xob
What wrong with saying with what you said.. why do women who are dealing with infertility have to suffer in silense! We have to listen to everyones elses joy of ttc, with a big smile on our faces, while we hurt inside..
There was 3 of you in 3 different situations, the converstion was balanced, I’m sorry that it ended, maybe due to a lack of understanding or fear from your friends.
I agree with what Anne said, you are not wrong for what you said. Infertility is a tough thing to live with but there are some good infertility solutions on the internet. Maybe they will help and it’s best to try and find out instead of live your whole life in infertility. Be strong and good things will come your way “infertile blonde!”