It’s amazing sometimes to find out what other people think of you.
Sometimes it’s humbling.
Other times it’s upsetting and hurtful.
And sometimes it’s just plain shocking when you realize how others perceive you to be.
I’ll never forget after my very public IVF miscarriage at 14 weeks when someone looked me in the eyes and said with a smile:
“I’m just surprised you were pregnant. I thought you would never give up your career or your figure for a baby. You are so IN to your job”
If she’d only known what I’d been through to get myself to this point.
I’ll just never understand how some people tick…..
Did she ever stop to think that the reason I was “so IN to my job” was because it was my distraction??????
All I can say is NEVER….EVER….judge a book by its cover.
Love much,
xob
Amen to that Becky this is a systemic problem within our society…..
What did you say to her? We have had several miscarriages and these losses have nearly broken our hearts. When people make insensitive comments, it’s difficult to know how to respond. Besides losing our babies, we have distanced ourselves from friends who just don’t seem to understand this difficult place in our lives. I want to create a spirit of care and understanding for grieving couples and at the same time find myself very reluctant to share our experiences.
Agreed. I can’t even begin to tell you how many people have voiced their opinions regarding our adoption, with the age difference in all of our children. They have no idea. Sometimes opinions are best kept to one’s self. Some people don’t realize this…