For 28 months I fought for The Girl on a daily basis (or so it seemed to me).
And now she’s here.
I stare at her everyday in disbelief.
I am in awe and I am so grateful.
Friends and family all say, “now you can relax.”
But I can’t.
I’m still angry.
Something’s gotta give.
Why did it take so long?
Why is this process so difficult?
Why are there so many rules?
And at the same time why aren’t there enough rules?
Why do adoptive parents have to sign away all their rights for any agency or lawyer to represent them?
Why does it seem as if only the adoptive parents are accountable for anything?
Why do adoptive parents assume all the financial responsibility and all the risk?
And why oh why does it cost so much?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again— I do not expect adoption professionals to work for free but the costs as they stand now are just prohibitive for most.
Would anyone like to answer these questions for me?
And please don’t say “that’s just the way it is.”
That’s just not an acceptable answer.
Because here’s the reality: If the cost of adoption continues to skyrocket then fewer American’s will be able to adopt—-and what will that mean for the children who need to be adopted?
It means they won’t be….and then what?