Comments for An Infertile Blonde

Comment on Thank you to you too…… by Danielle Bright

Danielle Bright — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:35:17 +0000

Always good to hear what’s happening..keep me updated on the action! Talk to you soon…

Comment on What would you do? by Cheryl

Cheryl — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 22:42:54 +0000

I’m a waiting adoptive parent, and I’m with you ladies! It’s scary. Having kids is scary in general because there are so many things we cannot control. We just love them so much and want to protect them!

For me it helps to remind myself that even birth families have these kinds of negative stories in the news. Look at stories about babies swapped at birth, lost custody due to an ex’s false allegations, kidnapping, etc! These stories could easily tranlate into an equivelant worry about their kids being taken away.

Does that stop anyone from getting prego? Not so much. Somehow we realize those are extreme cases more easily than we realize how extreme some of these adoption nightmares are….

Stay strong ladies! Real moms earn the title “mom” and that’s us

Comment on Helpusadopt.org Road Trip, Part 4—The Last Visit by Latharia

Latharia — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 10:48:55 +0000

What an absolutely awesome feeling! We’re still hoping & waiting & reassessing our options & our finances. It feels so good to read about success stories like yours & E’s!

Comment on What would you do? by Kelly

Kelly — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 19:56:42 +0000

I read it, and was freaked out nearly the entire time I was reading it. Would go and hug my baby girl so tight I think I was starting to worry her. I had to take a step back and say, “It’s just a book.”

It seems that all too frequently lately, I’ve been picking up books that end up with some sort of adoption type theme.

Comment on What would you do? by Melis

Melis — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 14:00:09 +0000

I cant wait for you to write your book so you can show the world the positive side of adoption!!!!

Comment on What would you do? by Rosanne Cowen

Rosanne Cowen — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 20:32:38 +0000

The world loves reading about the dark side, period. What excitement is there in a story about a happy family formed when a home and hearts were opened e to a child in need of parents? Every adoptive family I know fits into the storyline above, but happy endings and unremarkable stories don’t sell books.

I am no fan of books or attitudes that keep adoption on the “freaky fringe”. I don’t typically read thrillers, but I am sure there are stories written about weird snafus involved in reproductive technology.

What will I do? I will continue to hold my head high. I don’t use the moniker “adoptive parent”, as I feel only like a parent, and the most grateful one on this earth at that. But I am thrilled to tell anyone about the route I took to achieve parenthood.

Comment on Worry Much????? by Tosh

Tosh — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 02:50:54 +0000

I love this post! How true that we worry so much and what good does it do? Dont get me wrong my middle name is worry wart. Recently we had to send 3 reference “letters” (it was more like a questionaire but they call it a letter, I sure you know what I mean) to two friends and one family member. As I read the questions: what are his / her weaknesses? I had to stop and think, not because there aren’t any (I’m sure my husband could come up with several) but because this is not something you wake up in the morning and think about on a daily basis. So, it occured to me that ONE of my weaknesses is that I worry too much! That being said, I am slowly coming to realize through this new path (of adoption) we have chosen but also with all the other experiences in the recent past, IVF pregnancy, twin loss, failed IVF’s, IUI’s, etc. I now realize that all of this is so much out of my control and that all the worrying wont change the outcome, so why not enjoy the journey (as much as possible) and always look for something good! Love your blog! Thanks for what you do! You are an inspiration! Tosh

Comment on Helpusadopt.org Road Trip, Part 4—The Last Visit by Jenn

Jenn — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 01:09:55 +0000

It took me a while to read this post completely … because I kept having to wipe the tears from my eyes. When I picked up my little guy from school today, he ran across the playground when he saw me and greeted me with a giant hug and a “Hi Mama”! <3

Comment on Worry Much????? by Laurie

Laurie — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 00:52:35 +0000

Sure they can actually be dealt with, but not in the way any of us planned, right?!

One of my dearest — but most dense — male friends used to tell me to stop putting myself and my body through all I was going through to try to get pregnant. “Why’s it that big of a deal?”

My response to him was to “grow a uterus, have your body fail you and then come talk to me.”

So yea, I dealt with the infertility, but I kinda wished I had worried about it a little beforehand, so I wasn’t smacked blindly by it.

So perspective? Eh, who needs it?!

xoxo, an infertile redhead

Comment on Worry Much????? by Heather-Ohio Blondie

Heather-Ohio Blondie — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 23:50:56 +0000

oh my gosh becky, how pertinant for you to post this tonight. i just got off the phone with our social worker representing us (not the birthcouple) and i was telling her all about this current adoption situation we are in. she asked whether or not the birthmother’s mother was supportive of the adoption. I said that she wanted her daughter to keep the baby because she wanted to be a grandmother. our social worker told me that was a huge red flag. my heart sank. i feel like all my infertility came rushing back. part of me wonders why we even accepted this situation, and then part of me realizes this is just the risk you take. this is not a blissful time, it is stressing me out. xoxoxoxoxo